"Just give me fair warning".
Many times, what that really means is this:
"If I had only known sooner,
I could have done something about it".
The fact is, many times we did.
We knew much sooner.
We just chose to ignore it.
Don't get me wrong…
Are there times when things hit us without warning that we couldn't do anything about with even the best preparation? Yes. There are always exceptions to the rule.
But I've never met someone, (myself included), who should be truly shocked at the outcome of a situation when we had the ability to alter it.
So as you start your week, look around.
Are you doing what you can, with what you have, where you are?
Are you begging people to help you be lazy (asking for "fair warning"),
or preparing like you'll never need one, (embracing "without warning)?
"Fair warnings" are for those who enjoy sitting down until they have to stand up.
"Without warnings" are for the rest who are prepared because they're already moving.
It's the difference between doubting things will turn out well,
and knowing you've done all that you can.
We want a life that gives us "fair warning",
We need to be better prepared
so we are ready for "without warning".
JFK nailed it with this quote...
"The time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining".
SO...Do the hard work early so you can watch the rain in your living room through your window, not feel it on your head.
Don’t be surprised when your commitment to accountability is met by someone’s addiction to avoiding it.
It's happened before, and you'll likely bump into it in the future.
You are in the middle of what you thought would be a conversation, and suddenly feels like a confrontation.
The inability to agree on what the central issue is derails progress before it can leave the station. It’s impossible to make the necessary adjustments to move forward if you are talking two different languages. Both sides of the issue either set aside pride to get to a common starting point, or it’s a walk-away moment.
At some point, there has to be more value placed on walking away in humility that staying put because of pride. Those moments aren’t easy. They hurt. It's true that there is something to be said for learning from every experience. But at some point, you’ll have to let it go.
If you don’t?
That’s just another road that leads back to
pride being more important than progress.
That road isn't worth the trip.
One step at a time = #progress
Even if you take three forward, and two back…you are moving forward. There will be days will when you crush it, and days when you feel crushed. But if you are committed to trying something each day to take a step forward, you will find yourself making progress.
Progress over time = #momentum
You'll eventually look up and see things changing around you. The energy you expended to move forward one step will now get you three. What seemed so hard when you started has become much easier. Think about it, lift 10 lbs. today and everyday for a month. Next month not only will it feel easier…you'll find yourself smack in the middle of momentum as you crave, pick up and crush heavier ones.
Momentum all the time = #leverage
Living in this space gives you choices. It allows you to have the options you've always wanted, because you've done the hard work you previously wouldn't. You feel better about you, and people feel more confident in you. That gives you what you need to have conversations that effect change. There is a word for that. Leverage.
Use your leverage to lead well, and teach others to get where you are now. There is an amazing sense of accomplishment as you bring others with you and
set your team up to make progress, build momentum and create leverage.
How to have engaging conversations that connect you, not uncomfortable confrontations that divide you.
They all share the same commonality.
It's a daily struggle for all of us to communicate with those closest to us, avoiding the collision of emotions that causes those people to feel far from us.
Try this little exercise to reset your perspective...
You have two ears and one mouth,
so listen twice as much as you speak.
You have two eyes and one mouth,
see things from someone else's perspective before sharing your own.
You have two feet and one mouth,
walk in someone else's shoes before telling them why your way is better.
You have two hands and one mouth,
serve someone with them before you serve yourself by speaking.
You have two knees and one mouth,
your posture to kneel in the presence of God matters more than
posturing yourself as someone who knows it all by speaking too quickly.
As the old saying goes…
I'd rather be wrong and keep my mouth shut ,
than open it...act like a fool, and remove all doubt.
As you navigate all of your relationships today look for the opportunity to do almost anything first, and speaking second. You'll connect better with people around you. They'll sense you care for them.
Together you will gain access to a level of trust in your relationship that previously went untapped.
That's how we end up having engaging conversations that connect our relationships,
rather than uncomfortable conversations that place a division between us.
The first is about the value we place on the people around us,
the latter when we make it all about us.
That's a perspective that will bring joy.
That's an opportunity to live a life of purpose, on purpose.
That's a reminder I need., everyday.
I hope it's a reminder that is an encouragement to you today, wherever you may be…
to help you get to wherever you may be going.
Have a GREAT day!
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From the desk of our founder, Brett W. Gould.