Settling is stopping short.
To settle in is being content.
In either case, where you are may not be where you thought you'd be by now. It may not be where you want to be right now. And it may not be where you know you could be by now.
All of that can either paralyze you, or propel you. It can hold you back, or launch you forward. It can frustrate you or remind you.
Wait...remind you? Of what?
Your past may have played a part in your present, but it doesn't have to determine your future.
There isn't one of us, myself included, that doesn't need to hear this from time to time.
There is value in a little self-reflection, to provide new direction.
It's at those moments that we have to decide if we are going to feel sorry for ourselves, and start settling for less than our full potential. Or...take a deep breath, settle in, and see things from a fresh perspective.
Be fully present where you are, who you are with, with what you have.
And when you start moving forward, bring contentment along for the ride.
Stop settling today for what your past is lying to you about. Stop settling today for who others say you are. Stop settling because the obstacles in front of you seem like they are too big to take on.
To believe your past is your launching pad, because it was your learning ground. To believe who you are isn't determined by the the insecurities of others. To believe your future is what you make of the opportunities you leverage today.
And when you do...
Enjoy the contentment you find when you settle in, because you've committed to stop settling.
Have you ever felt held up, held back, stuck...aka...DELAYED?
I think we've all been there at some point.
I was looking at this word today, and realized something.
It wasn't immediate.
It took a minute to see what was there.
But then it hit me...
This is what I saw at first:
And then I saw this:
The answer we are looking for (why we are delayed) is in the word itself.
Let me explain...
The deed to a house shows WHO owns it.
It's the same thing when we are delayed.
Someone owns it.
Sometimes it's truly out of our hands.
But other times, and far too often than we'd care to admit?
It's on us.
And until we #OwnTheDelay, we won't be able to move past it.
Maybe today is the day we...
If you are trying to move the needle of change in your organization,
it's very likely someone else is trying with everything they have not to.
It's human nature for some to fear change.
It's also human nature for others to embrace it.
So how do we bridge the gap?
Realize that for many, the word change is the same as the word risk.
Read these two thoughts...
The reason change doesn't look attractive,
is because the status quo is so addictive.
The reason risk doesn't look attractive,
is because the status quo is so addictive.
To the person who doesn't want change,
those two sentences mean the exact same thing.
4 things you can do today, to open the conversation for change.
Implement the acronym, and you'll see the needle move.
Continue to insist your way is better, and everything just needs to "get on board", and you'll find yourself frustrated and exhausted.
Moving the needle is about building relational equity.
One last thought...
Did you notice the brake light is on in this picture?
Maybe the first step for you isn't stepping on the gas. (faster change)
Maybe you need to get your brakes looked at first. (hit pause)
Maybe you need to value slowing down & take care of a more pressing issue.
Maybe your braking system isn't healthy. (your culture)
Maybe if you get your way and you get to 60 MPH too quickly, you won't be able to safely slow down, and that will cost you far more than your opinion. (your team)
Maybe your team's safety is where you need to start. (again...your culture)
Create a safe environment where people are heard, valued, and cared for.
You'll be amazed how fun the ride towards change can be,
when you offer a safe and healthy way to get there...together.
Fix the brakes, and then hit the road.
Once you do...
Enjoy the journey!
We have a generation of young adults,
many of whom are struggling with making good decisions.
Let's highlight one area where this happens.
Students don't have an academic problem,
they have a vision problem.
And I'm not talking about their eyesight.
So what am I talking about?
Applying themselves in the classroom starts with an ability to understand why they are there in the first place. If the primary reason is because "they have to be", that ship isn't gonna sail.
The Millennial generation fell out of love with "because I said so" a long time ago.
How do you help an at-risk student achieve the success they want, you want for them, and what the world needs from them?
Stop telling them what to do,
and start helping them discover who they are,
so that they will buy in to why they are there.
They won't care about your "because" until they know THE CAUSE.
Why am I doing it?
Who will it help?
What problem will it solve locally?
What problem will it solve globally?
How will this class help me change the world?
We either start answering these questions intentionally,
or we will continue to see them struggle academically.
So we've identified the problem...
but HOW...how does it change?
What is the solution?
THIS PROCESS IS A START.
I've watched this process change thinking.
I've watched this process change lives.
When you help them discover their vision,
they will want to follow direction.
Systems & structures aren't the enemy
of the Millennial generation.
Helping them understand why they exist,
and how their talents fit into this world?
That's the secret sauce.
Because when they know WHO they are,
they will know WHAT to do.
Or we can keep beating the drum saying everything we've been saying, changing nothing, risking even less...and expecting a completely different outcome. (AKA...rolling the dice)
I believe that's pretty close to the definition of insanity.
These 141 testimonials represent the hope that comes when we go first, change our approach, and risk more...all in the name of a generation that needs us to fight for them, not with them. (AKA...solving the problem)
How can you help?
Glad you asked.
Do you know someone in leadership at a University?
Simply share this blog with them,
and ask them to listen to the 141 voices for themselves.
Then have them call me, so I can tell them what made it happen.
(This number works best for that...716-672-9661)
Thanks for joining us in spreading the word.
You're the best!
The joy of "arrival".
"If I could just get there, things would get better".
Except the part where that's a lie.
Things get better when we embrace the journey for what it can teach us, rather than treat it as an inconvenience standing in our way. There are people, experiences, and yes...even obstacles, waiting to teach us who we are and why we exist. They will challenge and refine us. They will force us to choose between what we think we need, and what we actually need. They will force us, thankfully, to look beyond what we think are our limitations. And in the midst of that grand collision of change, uncertainty, joy, fear, hope, desire and the rest?
We need to slow down long enough,
to appreciate the leverage that tension provides.
It will keep us from falling over the emotional cliff of overreaction.
It will keep us moving forward fast enough,
to avoid a rest that becomes a personal pity party.
It will keep us right where we need to be today,
so that we can learn from our surroundings on the way.
I don't know what journey you are on today.
But I am sensing that if you only value arrival at a destination,
you'll be missing some pretty amazing stuff along the way.
Let today serve as a reminder that when "getting there" seems like the end game...
Being present today, in all of your faculties, is.
Enjoy the journey, my friend.
It's a gift.
(As I type this blog I am on my porch, sitting in overcast, gloomy weather. As I typed that last sentence...I'm finding it more than a coincidence that the sun burst through the clouds, made me have to squint just to see my screen, and offered a warm reminder that all of this is true.)
The ride was go pretty well. I had made it up some hills without feeling like I was going to have a coronary. The breeze as I rode cut the humidity, making it feel like I could go for hours. And then it happened...
I turned a corner and met a headwind.
A 90 degree turn, and the circumstances of my ride changed drastically.
Have you ever been there?
One second everything is going great, and the next...
you are being force-fed an obstacle of epic proportions?
Here is what I did...
I changed gears.
I adjusted to my surroundings, so I could keep moving forward.
Life is like that too.
At some point we are going to hit a headwind.
How we respond is everything.
Shifting allows us to adjust so that we can continue to pursue our destination.
Taking the same approach when something isn't working is obstination.
Shift when you hit the headwind...
(and notice I said when, not if, since we all will.)
You'll be back up to cruising speed before you know it.
And let me be clear.
Shifting is about making an adjustment that keeps you on course to your original destination. It's not about an abandonment of the plan just because it got hard. Your original vision (who you are and why you exist) doesn't change because the winds do. It doesn't even change what you believe. It simply means it's time to think on your feet and alter how you are doing what you are doing.
Shift how you do what you do if you need to,
so that you can arrive where you are called to.
If you leave enough change behind...
eventually you'll hand your future to someone else.
Small change becomes a sizable deposit at some point.
Change is here. It's all around us.
It's either going to be in your future, or someone else's.
What change will you make, based on the challenge(s) you face?
Don't leave your opportunity on the table for someone else to take.
Invest in yourself...your team...your future.
Start your week with a purpose...on purpose.
Embrace the change that is in your hand,
instead of leaving it behind in fear.
Your future will thank you for it later.
Simply put, it's
WHO you are and WHY you exist
as an organization. (In business, education, ministry, family, etc...)
You exist to _______________________, so that _______________________.
You exist to (do something specific), so that (a specific thing happens as a result).
When you can articulate who you are, what makes you tick, what breaks your heart, what keeps you up at night, what you'd do if you could spend all day doing it...you are getting close to your vision.
The key word there is articulate.
Yes, it's important.
If you can't be clear, you'll never be able to explain it to anyone else.
You can't give clear directions
where there aren't specific boundaries.
That is what a clearly articulated vision does for you and your organization.
It's the starting, middle and end point of your conversations, meetings, brainstorming, etc...
It keeps you on track.
It's your filter.
We exist to help you discover WHO you are, so that you will know WHAT to do.
That is what drives us at WHOBIX.
That is our vision.
It's clear. It's concise. It's our filter.
Notice we aren't calling it a "vision statement". Unfortunately that term comes with some serious baggage. It makes us think of some paragraph of general drivel with big words. Boiled down, I think we'd be hard-pressed to find a single person in any organization that could repeat, much less explain one of those from memory.
When you get who you are and why you exist into a single sentence, something cool happens.
It gets you past incoherent babbling, and into intelligent conversation.
It enables you to cast your vision to me.
It empowers your team to do the same with others.
It gets me, as the listener, excited to hear more about you.
It allows your team to process opportunities more effectively because it keeps you on point.
It helps you avoid getting distracted by something that looks cool, but ultimately isn't who you are.
Do you see where all of that is going?
Having a clearly articulated vision will keep your team focused.
Having a clearly articulated vision will help you lead with confidence.
Having a clearly articulated vision will launch your team into it's calling.
Having a clearly articulated vision will attract others to join you on the journey.
Who are you?
Why do you exist?
Start brainstorming thoughts, words, phrases.
It will take some time, but the most beautiful, simple, articulate, and meaningful things always do.
Put this on your whiteboard.
Pin it on your corkboard.
Place this on your bathroom mirror.
We exist to ______________________________, so that ___________________________________.
I can't wait to hear your vision.
I get excited when other people find theirs.
And if you get stuck, send us a note.
Maybe we can help you discover yours.
Be careful what you give weight to.
It'll crush you eventually, or propel you forward exponentially.
So how do you know the difference between the two?
Sometimes, it's obvious.
Other times, the line seems blurred at best, and unrecognizable at worst.
Here's a simple way to look at it...
There is a stark difference between FEEDBACK and PUSHBACK.
FEEDBACK is constructive and based on the vision of your organization.
PUSHBACK is destructive and based on the opinion of one person.
The next time someone stops you in the hallway, speaks up at a meeting, sends you an email, text, etc...filter absolutely every thing they say about why something isn't working/needs to change through the vision of your organization. (If you don't have one, come back tomorrow...they'll be a blog on what it is, and how to craft one).
If you hear someone speaking about change they'd like to see, filter it or forget it.
Base every single decision on who you are and why you exist.
Make sure it aligns with what you believe.
Be certain how you do what you do is based on forward motion, not old habits.
Giving weight to it just because it's spoken isn't helpful.
Acting on it because you are afraid of a reaction to it if you don't isn't helpful.
Like I said at the beginning...
Be careful what you give weight to.
It might feel good up front to look good in the eyes of the criticizer.
In the end though, there's a good chance you'll be following each other out the door.
Worse yet, they'll still be there, and you'll find yourself holding the bag.
Other people's personal opinions should never trump your organization's vision.
If you still get bit, because you held firm to that last statement?
Congrats. You did well, kid.
You have too much to offer your team to allow decisions and changes to be based on personal opinions, mood swings and politics.
And if no matter what you do, no one else see's the value in this, maybe it's time to start looking for a place where everyone does.
A place where everyone is in it together, behind a solid vision.
And if you can't find one?
Maybe it's time to start one.
(Remember to come back tomorrow. Yes, I know it's Saturday. I also know it's too important to wait until the weekend is over. Something tells me you already know that too, and can't wait to dig in. Proud of you for that. See you tomorrow.)
Both tossed aside quite often, but why?
Think about the end of a typical day.
You empty your pockets.
A few coins are placed in a jar, a dish...or land on the dresser.
No big deal.
But at some point, it dawns on you that what used to be nominal has become rather noticeable.
Change is piling up.
You've got something of value.
You've got something to cash in.
You've got some serious currency.
You've got the ability to turn your spare change
into life change for others.
And it's no different with cultural change.
It starts with the intentional decision to "make a deposit" daily into building healthy relationships. Whether it's in the workplace, at home or in the community. At first it doesn't seem like much, but eventually it will create the end result you've wanted all along.
Take the time to make a positive emotional deposit into the lives of the people closest to you.
And start looking at cultural change as essential change.
When you leverage spare change you will bring life change.
When you leverage cultural change you will bring life change.
Pair those two and you'll be surprised at what you and the people closest to you will accomplish.
Have a great day...
I hope it's full of all sorts of beautiful change.
From your pocket.
From your head.
From your heart.
For the rest of the world.
From the desk of our founder, Brett W. Gould.