Settling is stopping short.
To settle in is being content.
In either case, where you are may not be where you thought you'd be by now. It may not be where you want to be right now. And it may not be where you know you could be by now.
All of that can either paralyze you, or propel you. It can hold you back, or launch you forward. It can frustrate you or remind you.
Wait...remind you? Of what?
Your past may have played a part in your present, but it doesn't have to determine your future.
There isn't one of us, myself included, that doesn't need to hear this from time to time.
There is value in a little self-reflection, to provide new direction.
It's at those moments that we have to decide if we are going to feel sorry for ourselves, and start settling for less than our full potential. Or...take a deep breath, settle in, and see things from a fresh perspective.
Be fully present where you are, who you are with, with what you have.
And when you start moving forward, bring contentment along for the ride.
Stop settling today for what your past is lying to you about. Stop settling today for who others say you are. Stop settling because the obstacles in front of you seem like they are too big to take on.
To believe your past is your launching pad, because it was your learning ground. To believe who you are isn't determined by the the insecurities of others. To believe your future is what you make of the opportunities you leverage today.
And when you do...
Enjoy the contentment you find when you settle in, because you've committed to stop settling.
If you are trying to move the needle of change in your organization,
it's very likely someone else is trying with everything they have not to.
It's human nature for some to fear change.
It's also human nature for others to embrace it.
So how do we bridge the gap?
Realize that for many, the word change is the same as the word risk.
Read these two thoughts...
The reason change doesn't look attractive,
is because the status quo is so addictive.
The reason risk doesn't look attractive,
is because the status quo is so addictive.
To the person who doesn't want change,
those two sentences mean the exact same thing.
4 things you can do today, to open the conversation for change.
Implement the acronym, and you'll see the needle move.
Continue to insist your way is better, and everything just needs to "get on board", and you'll find yourself frustrated and exhausted.
Moving the needle is about building relational equity.
One last thought...
Did you notice the brake light is on in this picture?
Maybe the first step for you isn't stepping on the gas. (faster change)
Maybe you need to get your brakes looked at first. (hit pause)
Maybe you need to value slowing down & take care of a more pressing issue.
Maybe your braking system isn't healthy. (your culture)
Maybe if you get your way and you get to 60 MPH too quickly, you won't be able to safely slow down, and that will cost you far more than your opinion. (your team)
Maybe your team's safety is where you need to start. (again...your culture)
Create a safe environment where people are heard, valued, and cared for.
You'll be amazed how fun the ride towards change can be,
when you offer a safe and healthy way to get there...together.
Fix the brakes, and then hit the road.
Once you do...
Enjoy the journey!
The joy of "arrival".
"If I could just get there, things would get better".
Except the part where that's a lie.
Things get better when we embrace the journey for what it can teach us, rather than treat it as an inconvenience standing in our way. There are people, experiences, and yes...even obstacles, waiting to teach us who we are and why we exist. They will challenge and refine us. They will force us to choose between what we think we need, and what we actually need. They will force us, thankfully, to look beyond what we think are our limitations. And in the midst of that grand collision of change, uncertainty, joy, fear, hope, desire and the rest?
We need to slow down long enough,
to appreciate the leverage that tension provides.
It will keep us from falling over the emotional cliff of overreaction.
It will keep us moving forward fast enough,
to avoid a rest that becomes a personal pity party.
It will keep us right where we need to be today,
so that we can learn from our surroundings on the way.
I don't know what journey you are on today.
But I am sensing that if you only value arrival at a destination,
you'll be missing some pretty amazing stuff along the way.
Let today serve as a reminder that when "getting there" seems like the end game...
Being present today, in all of your faculties, is.
Enjoy the journey, my friend.
It's a gift.
(As I type this blog I am on my porch, sitting in overcast, gloomy weather. As I typed that last sentence...I'm finding it more than a coincidence that the sun burst through the clouds, made me have to squint just to see my screen, and offered a warm reminder that all of this is true.)
From the desk of our founder, Brett W. Gould.