Settling is stopping short.
To settle in is being content.
In either case, where you are may not be where you thought you'd be by now. It may not be where you want to be right now. And it may not be where you know you could be by now.
All of that can either paralyze you, or propel you. It can hold you back, or launch you forward. It can frustrate you or remind you.
Wait...remind you? Of what?
Your past may have played a part in your present, but it doesn't have to determine your future.
There isn't one of us, myself included, that doesn't need to hear this from time to time.
There is value in a little self-reflection, to provide new direction.
It's at those moments that we have to decide if we are going to feel sorry for ourselves, and start settling for less than our full potential. Or...take a deep breath, settle in, and see things from a fresh perspective.
Be fully present where you are, who you are with, with what you have.
And when you start moving forward, bring contentment along for the ride.
Stop settling today for what your past is lying to you about. Stop settling today for who others say you are. Stop settling because the obstacles in front of you seem like they are too big to take on.
To believe your past is your launching pad, because it was your learning ground. To believe who you are isn't determined by the the insecurities of others. To believe your future is what you make of the opportunities you leverage today.
And when you do...
Enjoy the contentment you find when you settle in, because you've committed to stop settling.
Have you ever found yourself stuck?
The kind of stuck that has you frustrated?
We've all been there.
Life throws us a curveball.
We were hoping to make contact, but then we swing and miss.
And after we swing, we realize the pitch wasn't as good as we first thought.
How do we respond in those moments?
The ones where it feels like there is a stadium full of people watching us strike out.
It's been said we can't hit what we don't swing at.
But I think we are missing out on some equally solid perspective.
We can't hit what isn't in the strike zone either.
If the pitch is high and tight, low and away, up and in...making contact is doubtful. And if it's a wild pitch or a pitch-out? Well, you get the point. We aren't getting on base swinging at offerings like that.
We aren't going to make progress by swinging at bad pitches.
I think sometimes we place so much value in putting our head down and pushing forward, that we miss the point. There is a more effective way to move forward. It requires more patience (that's not always easy). It requires more persistence to "foul-off" a few pitches that we aren't sure if they are strikes or not, just to keep the at-bat alive. But in the end, there is a common goal we are trying to reach.
Getting on base.
Listen...if you are finding the pitches aren't there today...stop swinging.
Stand in. Don't leave the batter's box. You can't get on if you aren't in the game.
Be patient. With a watchful eye, value the swings you don't take as important too.
And at the end of it...when enough bad pitches come?
Enjoy the moment when you can...
In the next blog, we'll talk about what to do once you're on base.
That's just as important.
When we change our perspective,
we change the trajectory of our story.
That thought popped into my head today. I took off towards my office to write it down, so I wouldn't forget it. When I got there, more came to mind. I wrote, or rather scribbled...feverishly...so as not to miss any of it.
Then I pushed my chair back slowly...and stared at the words in front of me. Bits and pieces of clarity came the longer I looked. And this is what I ended up with.
3 ways we can tackle the obstacle in front of us...
With that said, I have no idea which of the three you relate to most. But I have a sense that you do. I have a feeling one of them sticks out to you, like one of them did to me. And whatever one does, it's time to act on it.
Because for you, me, and everyone else around us...it's what we are being called to do.
I'll leave you with one last thought.
If we know that progress waits for us on the other side of our obedience, why is it that we are so addicted to our preference?
Might it be that we are so comfortable in our obscurity, that we really only like the idea of change...not the implementation of it? We need to get to the point where we see our obscurity as the obstacle that is keeping us from walking into our destiny.
Whether we need to...
Look under it, move around it, or climb over it...
Just get it done.
The trajectory of our story depends on it.
And if you still need motivation to do it?
If we act, it can impact someone else's life for the better. If we stay put, we value our preference more than what someone might get as a result of our obedience.
The ride was go pretty well. I had made it up some hills without feeling like I was going to have a coronary. The breeze as I rode cut the humidity, making it feel like I could go for hours. And then it happened...
I turned a corner and met a headwind.
A 90 degree turn, and the circumstances of my ride changed drastically.
Have you ever been there?
One second everything is going great, and the next...
you are being force-fed an obstacle of epic proportions?
Here is what I did...
I changed gears.
I adjusted to my surroundings, so I could keep moving forward.
Life is like that too.
At some point we are going to hit a headwind.
How we respond is everything.
Shifting allows us to adjust so that we can continue to pursue our destination.
Taking the same approach when something isn't working is obstination.
Shift when you hit the headwind...
(and notice I said when, not if, since we all will.)
You'll be back up to cruising speed before you know it.
And let me be clear.
Shifting is about making an adjustment that keeps you on course to your original destination. It's not about an abandonment of the plan just because it got hard. Your original vision (who you are and why you exist) doesn't change because the winds do. It doesn't even change what you believe. It simply means it's time to think on your feet and alter how you are doing what you are doing.
Shift how you do what you do if you need to,
so that you can arrive where you are called to.
From the desk of our founder, Brett W. Gould.