Someone is always hurting worse than us.
Someone is always in a place of pain we can't imagine.
We demand the world owes us something.
We share our opinion because somehow we feel the world needs to "hear it".
We'd reach out beyond our religious, political, fill-the-blank-with-whatever-it-is-you-think-needs-to-be-said, so that someone else can be cared for with our actions instead. We'd hit pause on our opinion, so that the facts of someone else's dire situation can be shared and heard. We'd stop, take a breath, and hit the delete button on the post we are about to make, so that the world will see less of our selfish desires.
The accountability we have to one another in this thing called life is like a braking system. Without it, and without one, we are going to continue to unnecessarily hurt one another...as we spiral out of control down a path we are sure to regret. Making sure our brakes are in solid working order, assures safety. It works the same way with a guarantee of accountability.
As we go about our day today, this one question will help all of us determine if what we are about to say is something that needs to be said...or better yet, never uttered.
Will it bring a positive & tangible life change, or is it destructively life-altering?
One builds relationships based on honor. The other is an opinion being shared that very well overshadows the greatest opportunity all of us have.
To love one another...daily.
Be careful what you give weight to.
It'll crush you eventually, or propel you forward exponentially.
So how do you know the difference between the two?
Sometimes, it's obvious.
Other times, the line seems blurred at best, and unrecognizable at worst.
Here's a simple way to look at it...
There is a stark difference between FEEDBACK and PUSHBACK.
FEEDBACK is constructive and based on the vision of your organization.
PUSHBACK is destructive and based on the opinion of one person.
The next time someone stops you in the hallway, speaks up at a meeting, sends you an email, text, etc...filter absolutely every thing they say about why something isn't working/needs to change through the vision of your organization. (If you don't have one, come back tomorrow...they'll be a blog on what it is, and how to craft one).
If you hear someone speaking about change they'd like to see, filter it or forget it.
Base every single decision on who you are and why you exist.
Make sure it aligns with what you believe.
Be certain how you do what you do is based on forward motion, not old habits.
Giving weight to it just because it's spoken isn't helpful.
Acting on it because you are afraid of a reaction to it if you don't isn't helpful.
Like I said at the beginning...
Be careful what you give weight to.
It might feel good up front to look good in the eyes of the criticizer.
In the end though, there's a good chance you'll be following each other out the door.
Worse yet, they'll still be there, and you'll find yourself holding the bag.
Other people's personal opinions should never trump your organization's vision.
If you still get bit, because you held firm to that last statement?
Congrats. You did well, kid.
You have too much to offer your team to allow decisions and changes to be based on personal opinions, mood swings and politics.
And if no matter what you do, no one else see's the value in this, maybe it's time to start looking for a place where everyone does.
A place where everyone is in it together, behind a solid vision.
And if you can't find one?
Maybe it's time to start one.
(Remember to come back tomorrow. Yes, I know it's Saturday. I also know it's too important to wait until the weekend is over. Something tells me you already know that too, and can't wait to dig in. Proud of you for that. See you tomorrow.)
From the desk of our founder, Brett W. Gould.