Have you ever found yourself stuck?
The kind of stuck that has you frustrated?
We've all been there.
Life throws us a curveball.
We were hoping to make contact, but then we swing and miss.
And after we swing, we realize the pitch wasn't as good as we first thought.
How do we respond in those moments?
The ones where it feels like there is a stadium full of people watching us strike out.
It's been said we can't hit what we don't swing at.
But I think we are missing out on some equally solid perspective.
We can't hit what isn't in the strike zone either.
If the pitch is high and tight, low and away, up and in...making contact is doubtful. And if it's a wild pitch or a pitch-out? Well, you get the point. We aren't getting on base swinging at offerings like that.
We aren't going to make progress by swinging at bad pitches.
I think sometimes we place so much value in putting our head down and pushing forward, that we miss the point. There is a more effective way to move forward. It requires more patience (that's not always easy). It requires more persistence to "foul-off" a few pitches that we aren't sure if they are strikes or not, just to keep the at-bat alive. But in the end, there is a common goal we are trying to reach.
Getting on base.
Listen...if you are finding the pitches aren't there today...stop swinging.
Stand in. Don't leave the batter's box. You can't get on if you aren't in the game.
Be patient. With a watchful eye, value the swings you don't take as important too.
And at the end of it...when enough bad pitches come?
Enjoy the moment when you can...
In the next blog, we'll talk about what to do once you're on base.
That's just as important.
Be careful what you give weight to.
It'll crush you eventually, or propel you forward exponentially.
So how do you know the difference between the two?
Sometimes, it's obvious.
Other times, the line seems blurred at best, and unrecognizable at worst.
Here's a simple way to look at it...
There is a stark difference between FEEDBACK and PUSHBACK.
FEEDBACK is constructive and based on the vision of your organization.
PUSHBACK is destructive and based on the opinion of one person.
The next time someone stops you in the hallway, speaks up at a meeting, sends you an email, text, etc...filter absolutely every thing they say about why something isn't working/needs to change through the vision of your organization. (If you don't have one, come back tomorrow...they'll be a blog on what it is, and how to craft one).
If you hear someone speaking about change they'd like to see, filter it or forget it.
Base every single decision on who you are and why you exist.
Make sure it aligns with what you believe.
Be certain how you do what you do is based on forward motion, not old habits.
Giving weight to it just because it's spoken isn't helpful.
Acting on it because you are afraid of a reaction to it if you don't isn't helpful.
Like I said at the beginning...
Be careful what you give weight to.
It might feel good up front to look good in the eyes of the criticizer.
In the end though, there's a good chance you'll be following each other out the door.
Worse yet, they'll still be there, and you'll find yourself holding the bag.
Other people's personal opinions should never trump your organization's vision.
If you still get bit, because you held firm to that last statement?
Congrats. You did well, kid.
You have too much to offer your team to allow decisions and changes to be based on personal opinions, mood swings and politics.
And if no matter what you do, no one else see's the value in this, maybe it's time to start looking for a place where everyone does.
A place where everyone is in it together, behind a solid vision.
And if you can't find one?
Maybe it's time to start one.
(Remember to come back tomorrow. Yes, I know it's Saturday. I also know it's too important to wait until the weekend is over. Something tells me you already know that too, and can't wait to dig in. Proud of you for that. See you tomorrow.)
From the desk of our founder, Brett W. Gould.